I still remember that day vividly, it’s a day I will never forget. I was in Mum’s room watching a movie when suddenly I heard a loud bang from the kitchen door. I rushed out of mum’s bedroom when I realized that it was Dad.

My dad screamed “oh no, your mum is dead”. Immediately, my heart skipped. I asked dad how it happened. His explanation was incoherent and difficult to understand as he was in pains. I remember going to my room, down on my knees and had a silent prayer” oh lord, bring my mum back to me, I need her’

I had spoken to her 2 days earlier. I told her she had to come back home as I needed to braid my hair for Christmas. Mum had travelled to my hometown to handle my family’s project. She promised she would be coming in 3 days’ time. I looked forward to seeing her. But on 5th December, 2005, my whole life changed . I couldn’t fathom how it happened. But she sounded okay when we last spoke on the phone .

A day had passed after I was told the awful news but I still hoped she would wake up and call me on the phone. I called my elder sister who last saw her a few hours before she died. I asked “ Sis, is this true? is mum really dead? She said “Yes’.

At that moment, it dawned on me that I will never see her again. That period, I was seeking for admission into the university. She promised that I wouldn’t stay at home and she would try her possible best to make sure i go to the university that year.

I cried silently each nights. Why oh why? I kept asking God. I reminisced telling her that I loved her 2 months prior to her death and that I would take care of her. She prayed for me and wished me well.

Mum was full of life. She was a Fashonista , talented , music lover and she loved to dance. She had this awesome sense of humour. Her jokes usually cracked me up!!!

5th December is a day a part of me died.

It’s been 12 years since you left but it seems like 12 days.

Although the pain is gone, but your memory still lingers. How can i forget you Mum ? You were a strong and courageous wife/mother. You were Kind , jovial selfless and empathetic. Your heart was made of gold .

Even in death , people still speak good of you.
Continue to Rest in peace…