“Loneliness Abroad Is Real”-Nigerian Lady In UK Recounts How She Gave Birth 3 Years Ago And None Of Her Neighbors Visited Or Congratulated Her

Nigerian lady named O Vicky Ejeh has recounted how she gave birth 3 years ago and till this moment none of her neighbors checked on her. She emphasized how loneliness abroad is real and how is much different in Nigeria. She went further to share her experiences visiting nigerian.

Sharing on Facebook, she wrote:

“Abroad life, E Get As E Be o….😄

When I visited Nigeria a few months ago after being away for a long while, I noticed everything. And I mean everything! From the moment I landed at the airport, I could feel it—the energy, the loud voices laughing, the unsolicited gist from strangers who suddenly became my long-lost aunties and uncles.

By the time I got home, I just sat down quietly, taking it all in. Ah, I miss this country! I never knew I could be in awe of something as simple as how Nigerians interact. The way we greet, argue, laugh, and just insert ourselves into each other’s business unprovoked—it’s an experience!

No wonder we don’t really talk about mental health like that. Who needs therapy when the woman selling boli is giving you free life advice? Or when your neighbor, whom you barely know, is helping you analyze your entire future over a plate of Jollof rice?

Loneliness? In Nigeria? It’s nearly impossible. Just step outside, and you’ll be entertained by people living their daily lives like it’s Nollywood.

©️VickyEjeh

But for those of us abroad, it’s a different story. Loneliness is real. Silence is overwhelming. You can live next door to someone for years and not even know their name. Nobody randomly knocks on your door just to say, “Ahh things just dey cost for market o”

I gave birth in the same apartment we were living for 3 years and non of my neighbours knew. Or they didn’t care. No one came to even check or ask “Una don born ?” 😂

That’s why when Nigerians abroad mention depression, people back home struggle to understand. “Depression ke? Abeg come back make another person go !”

©️Vicky Ejeh

The truth is, many of us abroad are struggling in silence—missing home, missing that unfiltered human connection, missing the little things that made life feel full. And because everyone assumes we’re “enjoying life,” we don’t always say how we really feel.

So please, if you have loved ones abroad, check in on them. Don’t just ask about money or work—ask how they are doing. Call them, send that message, video chat when you can. Remind them that they still belong, that home is not just a place—it’s the people who love them.

A simple “I was just thinking about you” can make all the difference. Let’s not let distance turn into disconnection.

Tag someone you love abroad and remind them they are not alone. ❤️

Source: O Vicky Ejeh

Email: elora.akpotosevbe@yahoo.com