I Was Raised Without A Dad… He Never Hugged Me, Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Bolaji Idowu has opened up on the challenges he faced growing up in a polygamous home, where he had no bond with his father.

Speaking on the latest edition of ‘WithChude’ podcast, Idowu, the lead pastor of Harvesters International Christian Centre, recalled how his step-mum would prevent him from initiating conversations with his dad, creating a sense of distance and rejection.

The cleric revealed one instance he hid from his father, who had arrived unexpectedly at his uncle’s place with his stepmother.

Idowu said his uncle advised him to run home. He reflected on how, as a child, he struggled to interpret these situations, leading to feelings of rejection and low self-worth.

He also emphasized the significance of the Church’s role in praying for the restoration of souls, particularly for individuals struggling with emotional issues.

“I have been a victim of emotional issues. Just my background. I was raised without a father. I have no memory of my father hugging me,” he said.

“I came from a polygamous background and it was so bad because of the arrangement it was in the family. If my father is in a place and I am with him, if my step-mum steps into that same place I have to go. That she cannot set her eyes on me.

“So, just imagine how a seven-year-old child interprets that. The thing about being a child is that you cannot interpret the complexities of what goes on in life.

“I remember I was just about eight or nine and I had gone to see my uncle. They stayed in this lovely house. And my father pulled a surprise visit with my step-mum. I had not seen him for like three or four months.

“My uncle just said the word to me that ‘your dad and your step-mum are here, get going now. I could not even have the opportunity to see my dad. I could not afford the driver. I remember I walked home that day because I did not know how to use the bus system. I cried because I felt rejected that I was not good enough.”

Source: The Cable

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