“I Met Her At The University Of Lagos Where I Went To Do My Master’s, She Was Doing Her First Degree”- Bob-Manuel Udokwu Talks Marriage

When did you think it was right for you to settle down?

Nobody put me under any pressure. It was the right time. The way we were brought up as kids, we all knew how to cook. At a time in my life as a bachelor, I just needed to settle down.

How did you meet your wife?

I met her at the University of Lagos where I went to do my master’s. She was doing her first degree. So, it wasn’t as if I went looking for women to marry. I went to study for a degree but came out with two – my master’s and my wife.

How did you know your wife was the right woman for you when you met her?

I had the kind of specification I wanted for myself. I wanted a woman who would be able to hold down the home while I was away. I needed someone who could make a decision. I wanted someone who would be a partner in this business.

She is one woman who holds intelligible conversations with me and I enjoy it. She is also homely. Her mother was a teacher and the discipline was obvious in the way she spoke and acted. There was also the physical attraction. She is beautiful too. The space between the time I met her and the time we had our wedding was not up to one year. If a guy is serious about getting married, you would know. There are no excuses.

How old were you then?

I would not say. I can give you an idea. I had already obtained my first degree and, of course, Nollywood started with ‘Living in Bondage’.

How do you view fatherhood?

Fatherhood, to me, means for the man of the house to be in charge and take responsibility for providing for the family not just financially but also physically and emotionally. An ideal father is one who provides leadership and guides the family in the direction that he wants the family to go. He is the captain of a ship in a vast ocean.

Source: Punch

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