“The World, These Days, Is Very Materialistic, Marriage Has Become More Transactional”- Bob-Manuel Udowku, Shares Warnings On Todays Marriages, Gives Advise To People Finding Love

Nollywood actor Bob-Manuel Udokwu has been happily married for a longn while now, and in a new interview with The Punch, he is giving advice to people still trying to find love, and dating in today’s world. Here is what the actor had to say.

Speaking during an interview about the advice he would give to single people dating and looking for love in today’s world, Bob-Manuel Udowku said:

BOB-MANUEL UDOWKU: I will tell them to look beyond the present. When I say the present, I mean superficial things like beauty, handsomeness, and material things. The world, these days, is very materialistic; young people nowadays in Nigeria are too materialistic. All their focus is on material things. It always does not work like that.

Some of our parents started with nothing. Some of our fathers were not millionaires, they did not even have thousands of naira before marrying our mothers, yet they built sustainable marriages. You will find out that it is not the most glamorous wedding that lasts well and it is also not the most wretched wedding that makes the best of marriage. It is the individuals that make marriages work. Examples abound of very wealthy families whose children get married, although through arranged marriages, and the marriages would collapse after a few months.

By now, one or two children would have come in and even though they have the money, such children grow up without any sense of direction. Young people should think about the future. They should consider what would happen 10, 20 years from now.

Such decisions are deeply personal. Historically, women have had the foresight to recognise the potential in men even when they possess little material wealth. Some older women often recall that their husbands had “nothing” when they married, though that “nothing” symbolised a potential for growth.

Sadly, today’s world has shifted, and marriage has become more transactional, with wealth being the primary criterion. True wealth is transient, and those who look beyond it often find stability. In previous generations, divorce was rare and seen as a taboo, but today, financial and peer pressures lead many marriages to break down. People should carefully consider what they want from marriage.

Source: Jide Okonjo

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